when no means yes.

i’m getting kind of good at saying no. 

i even frequently omit elaborating on my whys, because one should not have to explain every decision. 

if saying ‘yes’ to you means saying ‘no’ to my own truth, then, nope, you’re not getting my ‘yes.’ 

i felt really bitchy at first doing this. and i know there are still people who might not yet understand where i’m coming from or why i don’t say ‘yes’ as often to them anymore. and to them, i say, seriously, it’s not you, it’s me. i said ‘no’ so i could say ‘yes’ to me. 

it’s hard. it’s really freaking hard to say no. until…until the day comes that it becomes really freaking empowering to say no. next comes the day when someone truly needs you- maybe not life or death, but like non drama, true emotional breakdown needs you- and it becomes really freaking amazing that you can say yes at any moment to that person. because you have claimed back your time and your space and your life balance.

its good, guys. if you’re not there yet, keep working. it’s hard. it could take a bunch more yeses until you know it’s time for the no. but one day, it’s gonna click, and no will mean yes.  

 
 celebrating beer at brewdog usa. i think those guys would appreciate the art of saying no...

celebrating beer at brewdog usa. i think those guys would appreciate the art of saying no...